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Listening and obedience 2

This morning, L., M. and I talked about a half-dead tree. L. mentioned the idea of cutting it down, but as this tree is at the neighbor’s, I said that we should not cut it down, but simply remove the ivy that is blocking it. And actually M. went to cut it down. M. I’d be interested to know what you heard, what you didn’t hear and why?

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Listening and Obedience

I’d like to talk about listening. I’ve noticed that there are two listenings. Often, we think we’re listening, but in fact it’s the personality that listens without really listening, because at the same time we anticipate what we’re going to say to the other person; so we’re not in total listening.

I’ve often noticed that I say things to people, and I have the impression that it comes in through one ear and out through the other, because there’s often no follow-up. However, I have not observed any rejection of what I have asked for. With A. it happened to me several times, do you remember? I asked you to do something, and you didn’t do it.

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Anger

How do you experience the difference between identity-related anger and non-identity related anger?
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Chats with Jeff Wises (1998)

We talked about vocation and essential value. When you follow the process as you practice it, do you discover your own purpose? Yes, that’s it. Can this purpose be put into words? Yes, it must be put into words. Then, when it unfolds over months and years, it can no longer be verbalized (too complex). …

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Dialogues with Jeff Wises (1999)

How well did this process work for your past workshop participants? Have many people reached the state that they wanted to realize, or does it take a long time of practicing to do that?

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To blame someone

How do you manage a situation in yourself where "blaming someone " emerges?

Recently I experienced an unpleasant situation with someone…

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Shame, remorse

Shame/remorse (without guilt feeling) is a door to access the higher emotional center.
I consider it as important as the welcoming of necessary suffering and body consciousness

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Blind spots

Please share here your observations on shadow areas (or blind spots).

It seems to me that the exact vocabulary in French to translate "blind spot" is blind spot rather than shadow area.

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Gratitude

I realized that we never really addressed the issue of gratitude, of what it is deeply.

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Personal interest

What is personal interest?

Personal-interest does not take into account the context and consequences for others:…

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To be in tune with oneself

How do you know you’re in tune with yourself?
How do you know you’re not?

When I am in tune with myself there is no doubt, no trace, I do not reverse my decision.

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Love and intimate relationships

What is the difference between true love and false love in intimate relationships? More precisely, what is it like to be authentically in love with another person?

I feel true love as something of the nature of destiny…

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Banality

How is life, N.?

Quite commonplace.

Is this a disconcerting banality for you?

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Constraints

During our life we encounter all sorts of constraints and obstacles, minor and major ones. How to deal with them, how can they serve us in the context of work on ourselves?

These are things to be lived,…

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The survivor

I think the moment has come to analyze/review what happened to you since you got to know the diagnostics that your liver is severely damaged. In chronological order,…

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False steps to avoid when working on oneself.

In working on oneself, what are the missteps to avoid?

A pitfall that appears from time to time is the desire for permanence, the "once and for all,"

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Simplicity

I would like to talk about simplicity. What are you inspired to say about simplicity in our work?

I’d say it’s removing all the excess.

And in what context?

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